Elusive Solitude
When was the last time you spent some quality time . . . with yourself?
A word you don't hear much these days is "solitude." Maybe that’s because it has become rare. Too much solitude can feel like punishment, but some is essential if we are going to grow. We are surrounded at work, at home and everywhere else, but it is solitude we need for reflective introspection.
One reason carpooling hasn't worked well is because solitary driving time is precious to so many of us. Many busy people, who can afford it, hire drivers because their time alone in the car is rare and invaluable. Therapists have concluded that patients make headway primarily because therapy provides time, structure, and accountability to focus inward.
If you want to grow and move forward, you must take time every so often to be alone. Build it into your schedule to make sure it happens. Use it to think about where you are and where you want to go, and to problem solve, reflect, and re-connect with your heart's desires and challenges. You know how good you are when you are stress-free, focused, and self-empowered.
A friend of mine in Scottsdale is managing partner in a successful company. Currently, they are navigating a significant merger. He is a different guy when he gets too busy to take his regular hike up Pinnacle Peak or even shoot baskets for an hour in his driveway. This is his solitude. His focus and peace of mind depend on it.
What is your solitude?
How valuable is solitude to you?
Note: Do not steal time from loved ones.
Learn to identify ‘time bandits’, and recapture it from those who have little or no relevant purpose relational to your life's vision. Give yourself permission to make better decisions with your time. Once precious moments are spent, they are gone forever.
